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She had an affair with my best friend.AFFECTS MY: What part of self was injured or affected? Was it my self-esteem, my emotional security, my finances, my ambitions, my personal relationship, sex relations that had been interfered with? Self-esteem, pride, material security, security ambitions Self-esteem, pride, emotional security, sex instinct WHAT DID I DO? Putting out of my mind the wrongs others have done, I look for my own mistakes. What did I do, if anything, to set in motion trains of circumstances, which in turn caused people or institutions to hurt me and eventually led to my resentment of them for doing so? I refused assignments, I often missed work, and I argued with my boss. I didn t give my wife attention when I was drinking. I wasn t available as a husband. WHERE HAD I BEEN: Selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened, inconsiderate? Which of these character defects caused me to do what I did, or caused me to want to hold on to the old resentment, even though I may have done nothing to cause it? Selfish, self-seeking, inconsiderate Inconsiderate, selfish Step 4 - Review of Fears Feelings of anxiety, agitation, uneasiness, apprehension, impending doom, etc. WHO OR WHAT DO I FEAR? List people, institutions, or principles with whom I am fearful. Getting fired from my job. IRS WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ME IF THE FEAR COMES TRUE? I ll be broke and homeless. They will audit me and expect me to pay them back. AFFECTS MY: Is it my self-esteem, my security, my ambitions, my personal or sex relations that have been threatened? Self-esteem, pride, material security Self-esteem, material securityWHAT DID I DO? What did I do, if anything, to to cause this fear in me? I m not a very good worker. I miss work, I don t complete assignments, and I argue with the boss. I cheated on my taxes. WHERE HAD I BEEN: Selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened, inconsiderate? Which of these character defects caused me to do what I did, or cause me to want to hold on to the old fear, even though I may have done nothing to cause it? Selfish, dishonest, inconsiderate. Dishonest and frightened.Step 4 - Review of Our Own Sex Conduct Wrong acts that result in pain, hurt feelings, worry, financial loss, etc. for others and also self WHO DID I HURT? Jean SallyWHAT DID I DO? Intentionally flirted with her best friend. She caught me masturbating to internet porn. WHAT FEELINGS DID I CREATE IN OTHERS? Did I arouse jealousy, pain, hurt, worry, anger, suspicion, bitterness, desire to retaliate? Jealousy, hurt feelings Hurt, suspicion, bitterness WHERE WAS I AT FAULT? Where had I been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, frightened, or inconsiderate? Selfish, inconsiderate Selfish, frightened, inconsiderateWHAT COULD I HAVE DONE INSTEAD? Communicated with her that I need more attention. Had sex with her so I wouldn t seek it elsewhere. Step 4 - Review of Harms Done to Others Wrong acts that result in pain, hurt feelings, worry, financial loss, etc. for others and also self WHO DID I HURT? Amanda Dad WHAT DID I DO? Stole money from her purse. Didn t show up for his birthday after I said I d be there.WHAT FEELINGS DID I CREATE IN OTHERS? Did I create jealousy, anger, hurt, suspicion, bitterness, desire to retaliate?) Anger, suspicion HurtWHERE WAS I AT FAULT? Where had I been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, frightened, or inconsiderate? Selfish, dishonest, inconsiderate Selfish, inconsiderateWHAT COULD I HAVE DONE INSTEAD? Not stolen the money. 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