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Full disclosure as a consultant: I love Thanksgiving. The fact that the Wall Street Journal is looking for management consulting advice on how to plan a Thanksgiving dinner speaks volumes: it is a reflection on just how fraught with pitfalls, especially emotional, this traditional family celebration really is. ThereТs the presumed ideal outcome Ц a happy, satisfying family meal, and the feared reality Ц several days of hard work, anxiety and suspense leading to several hours of forced togetherness, internecine familial warfare, overflowing plates of bland food and bloated stomachs. In my work as a consultant to CEOТs and their management teams, I serve as a sounding board on psychological aspects of managing complex organizations. On a smaller and more intimate scale, families are no less complicated, and require somewhat analogous displays of leadership to bring all the elements together on time and under budget. In all my consulting engagements, what distinguishes my approach is that I bring my background as a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst to bear on my advice to leaders, and try to help them think more psychologically about their challenges. Leadership is crucial to planning a Thanksgiving meal, although in the traditional household itТs usually maternal leadership as opposed to the norm of paternal leadership in large corporations. Interestingly, one of the things I often tell my male CEO clients is that they need to be, in effect, more УmaternalФ Ц more nurturing, more open about their feelings, more self-revealing. And, ironically, to get Thanksgiving done right, mothers might need to take a page from the playbook of their stereotypically dominant, aggressive husbands and seize more control. When I consult to a CEO, a central question is: Уwho is the client?Ф Is it the CEO, or is it the organization he serves. Usually it is the latter. Either way, we have to be clear, because the goals might be different depending on the answer. Ideally, whatТs best for the CEO as an individual should also be whatТs best for the company, and usually thatТs the case. But in the short term, there might be some discomfort or even pain for the CEO, in the service of his unswerving devotion to the welfare of his employees and his shareholders. Similarly, in this Thanksgiving assignment, IТd want to determine whether the consulting advice is for mom (assuming, for the sake of discussion, that sheТs the leader of the Thanksgiving meal project), or is the client the family as a whole? The answer to that question will determine the design of my consulting interventions, and can lead to widely different Thursdays. If mom alone is the client (IТll use УmomФ to refer to whomever is the de facto leader), IТd interview her and find out how sheТs feeling based on past experiences, current guest list, and expectations for Thursday. Does she enjoy devoting six full days to planning and preparing a meal for 25 people, knowing that it will give them Ц and her Ц great pleasure? Or does she resent subjugating herself to the needs of her motley guests, many of whom might be there largely because of blood ties and feelings of familial obligation rather than affinity and friendship? Mom as Client The easiest situation is the one in which mom gets genuine, rather than faked, pleasure out of the complex orchestration of the big event, from the planning to the cooking to the actual meal itself, and youТve also got 24 other people who all get along and want nothing more than to be with each other. If thatТs the case Ц and we should all be so lucky Ц then she doesnТt need a consultant at all. A good cookbook or some trusted family recipes, along with thoughtful time management and some help from a few others, will ensure a thoroughly successful day. Hiring a consultant in this case is the sort of thing that gives consulting a bad name: being paid to tell a client what they already know or donТt need. We all know that even when mom takes pleasure in Thanksgiving, that doesnТt guarantee freedom from stress, much less an overall winning experience. When thereТs potential conflict among the attendees, or when attendance feels more forced than natural, then consulting on group dynamics might be far more useful than consulting on logistics and menu, which might be the least of the leaderТs problems. In fact Ц and this is an important point Ц momТs (and the JournalТs) narrow focus on a menu, a schedule and a shopping plan of attack probably represents an acknowledgement of and a psychological defense against the deeper worries about how people will get along, and how the leader will feel during and afterwards. If youТve got an angry, resentful mom (substitute CEO here and think about this), the team will feel it no matter how moist the turkey is or how beautifully the table has been set. This might be the best justification for partial or even complete outsourcing of the meal. If the economics are right (meaning the family can afford it), then base the outsourcing decisions on which parts of the process are most disagreeable to mom. Some moms, unfortunately for everyone, are too controlling, or feel too guilty about getting help, so that they resist outsourcing even when the economics are irrelevant. These moms might benefit from psychotherapy (read executive coaching) to help them resolve their feelings of guilty obligation, or of a pathological need to control (read micromanagement), or of their fantasy of magically healing a family through a good meal (read trying to change a maladaptive corporate culture through one slam-bang corporate event). Alas, that process of getting help needs to begin well in advance of this weekend. When youТve got a group of guests (substitute senior management team here) that doesnТt like each other, doesnТt spend enough time together getting to know each other, or doesnТt particularly like or respect mom, then youТve got another recipe for disaster. This causes stress on all sides. Mom undoubtedly feels responsible for trying to create a congenial atmosphere. While thoughtful seating arrangements can help, this situation begs the question of why such a dysfunctional crew was invited in the first place. IТll deal with seating arrangements later. ThatТs when itТs a fait accompli. But moms need to feel empowered, as they often donТt, to be more selective in whom they invite to the feast. Guilty obligation is one of the worst possible motivations for selecting Thanksgiving guests, as all the planning that follows becomes a compensation for this neurotically arranged get-together. I often see a comparable phenomenon with management teams that lack cohesion or donТt get along, yet the CEO feels obligated to stick with the team rather than reshaping it. The Party as Client ItТs a different consulting problem if we determine that momТs needs and feelings donТt really matter much anyway, and all that counts is that the guests have a good time. There isnТt much of an analogue to this situation in the corporate setting, as the healthy part of a CEOТs narcissism protects against it. Depending on how you look at it, a mom agreeing, explicitly or implicitly, that itТs OK to be miserable for Thanksgiving is either an expression of her maternal selflessness and generosity, or of her maternal masochism. Regardless, this is what we have to deal with by Thursday. The schedule, menu and shopping plan are the easy part Ц especially if you remember that getting bogged down in these details probably represents a defense against the anxiety about the day, and I will gladly defer to my consulting colleagues with expertise in logistics for their advice. All IТd say about the schedule is that itТs ripe ground for expressing your feelings about whoТs coming to dinner on Thursday. By procrastinating, and thereby causing more УrealisticФ anxiety about whether everything will get done on time, mom unwittingly creates a distraction for herself, as well as some targets for her aggression at home (like her husband or her kids) who may siphon off the anger she really feels towards her annoying mother-in-law whoТs arriving tomorrow to Уhelp outФ. As for the menu, IТve always thought thereТs something warm and nurturing about the traditional meal, with turkey and stuffing, cranberry sauce, yams, etc. A really tough, dry turkey is disappointing. But while it can be argued that substituting duck for turkey or abandoning tradition altogether is an exercise in creativity and freedom from convention, and might please those guests who claim to hate turkey, I think itТs just an attempt to draw more attention to the chef. Perhaps itТs her statement that sheТs not just a cook on Thanksgiving, but that sheТs an individual, too. The shopping plan of attack must, of course, be consistent with the schedule, and IТve already commented on outsourcing, above. My main advice here is that, unless mom really loves cooking for 24 people and derives unique pleasure from it, IТm a strong advocate of outsourcing (assuming the family can afford it). IsnТt mom one of the main people weТre giving thanks to on Thanksgiving? WouldnТt it be nice to let her sit back and be served, rather than slave away in the kitchen? If mom wants to orchestrate everything, from Saturday through Thursday, then the most important thing is for other family members to offer to help her, before she asks or shows signs of imminent collapse. At the very least, some genuine displays of gratitude go a long way. A few comments on seating arrangements: the ideal Thanksgiving meal would be one in which a free-for-all seating plan causes no stress, because youТre so confident that guests will all get along famously, no matter where theyТre sitting. But letТs not be naяve. Like with any other dinner party, we know that, in the minds of guests, bad food will always be more forgiven compared to bad company. IТve long forgotten how moist the turkey was at that big Thanksgiving three years ago, but I can still my distaste for that bombastic blow-hard who chewed my ear off. So unless youТre supremely confident that youТve got one happy group, it pays to put some thought into where everyone will sit. Put people together whom you know enjoy each other or whom you feel will get along, and separate those who are more like the components of salad dressing. I favor the use of place cards, since everyone usually submits to them unquestioningly, and they donТt put the host in the awkward position of looking like a traffic controller making on-the-spot judgments about character. In the boardroom, itТs usually a free-for-all with the exception of the chairman sitting at the designated head of the table, and seating assignments would likely be perceived as too controlling. The Thanksgiving host runs the risk of appearing controlling, but given that itТs a once a year event, and the guest list might vary from year to year, itТs worth that risk. A final thought: have you ever wondered why so many people say they love Thanksgiving leftovers? IТm convinced itТs not just because the flavors of the food taste better the next day. ItТs because eating some leftover turkey, dressing and gravy, in the privacy of your own kitchen, with the people of your own choosing, is one of American lifeТs quiet pleasures. Happy Thanksgiving. Kerry J. Sulkowicz, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, is the founder of The Boswell Group LLC. 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