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Blame and Excuses Are the Hallmarks of an Unsuccessful Life On television, I briefly watched three jailed individuals who are seeking parole from the Parole Board, talk about themselves. I noticed the same pattern in their reasoning and approach to life. Nothing was their fault including the incidents that landed each of them in jail. I suspect that if I interviewed more incarcerated individuals, I would find a pattern of not my fault. That is why taking responsibility for choices, actions, and direction is so powerfully important. Without taking responsibility, youll likely look at your life as a failure because you allowed yourself to be blown hither and yon, by any passing wind. And, you blamed the wind for how things turned out. People who take complete responsibility for their lives experience joy and control of circumstances. They are able to make choices because they understand that they are responsible for their choices. Indeed, even when events that are not under your control, go awry, you can, at least, determine how you will react to the event. You can make an event a disaster or you can use it as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to cherish your faith, to hold loved ones close. How to Take Responsibility for Your Life The most important aspect of taking responsibility for your life is to acknowledge that your life is your responsibility. No one can live your life for you. You are in charge. No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, each event is the result of choices you made and are making. Listen to the little voice in your head. And, observe yourself talking with coworkers, family members, and friends. Do you hear yourself taking responsibility or placing blame? Listen to the voice in your head. Eliminate blame; eliminate excuses. If the blame track or the excuse track plays repeatedly in your mind, you are shifting responsibility for your decisions and life to others. Second, listen to yourself when you speak. In your conversation, do you hear yourself blame others for things that dont go exactly as you want? Do you find yourself pointing fingers at your coworkers or your upbringing, your parents influence, the amount of money that you make, or your spouse? Are you making excuses for goals unmet or tasks that missed their deadlines? If you can hear your blaming patterns, you can stop them. Third, if an individual you respect supplies feedback that you make excuses and blame others for your woes, take the feedback seriously. Control your defensive reaction and explore examples and deepen your understanding with the coworker or friend. People who responsibly consider feedback attract much more feedback. Leadership and Management Success Tips Make No Excuses By  HYPERLINK "http://humanresources.about.com/bio/Susan-M-Heathfield-6016.htm" Susan M. Heathfield, About.com See More About:  HYPERLINK "http://humanresources.about.com/lr/cultures_of_accountability/180350/1/" cultures of accountability  HYPERLINK "http://humanresources.about.com/lr/workplace_negativity/180350/2/" workplace negativity Excuses for failure, excuses about your choices in life, excuses about what you feel you have accomplished fuel dysfunctional thinking and consequently, undesirable actions and behaviors. Making excuses instead of taking one hundred percent responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and your goals is the hallmark of people who fail to succeed. Part of the power of taking responsibility for your actions is that you silence the negative, unhelpful voice in your head. When you spend your thinking time on success and goal accomplishment, instead of on making excuses, you free up the emotional space formerly inhabited by negativity. The next time you catch yourself making an excuse, whether for the late project, the unmet goal, or the job you work, gently remind yourself - no excuses. Spend your thought time planning your next successful venture. Positive thinking becomes a helpful habit. Excuses fuel failure. Leadership and Management Success Tips Optimism: The Power of Optimistic Thinking By  HYPERLINK "http://humanresources.about.com/bio/Susan-M-Heathfield-6016.htm" Susan M. 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