Roy Lilley DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
CREATING SUCCESS
Dealing with Difficult People
? Handle aggression
? Manage conflict successfully
? Motivate poor performers
Roy Lilley
CREATING SUCCESS
Dealing with Difficult People
Third edition
Roy Lilley
London and Philadelphia
For ATR, who deals with the most difficult person I know
First published 2002 Reprinted 2002 (twice), 2003, 2004 (twice), 2005 Reissued in 2006 Reprinted 2006
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? Roy Lilley 2002, 2006
ISBN-10 0 7494 4751 6 ISBN-13 978 0 7494 4751 9
British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A CIP record for this book is available from the British Library
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Lilley, Roy C. Dealing with difficult people / Roy Lilley. p. cm. -- (Creating success) Reprint. Originally published in 2002. Includes bibliographical references. ISBN 0-7494-4751-6
1. Psychology, Industrial. 2. Interpersonal conflict. 3. Problem employees. I. Title. II. Series. HF5548.8.L493 2006 650.1'3--dc22
2006014888
Typeset by Jean Cussons Typesetting, Diss, Norfolk Printed and bound in Great Britain by MPG Books Ltd, Bodmin, Cornwall
Contents
About this book
vi
1. A short course in human relations
1
Difficult, who me? 2
2. A quick guide to the seven classically difficult types ?
or how to sound like an expert in the time it takes to
drink a cup of coffee
6
Recognise anyone? 6; First the diagnosis 15
3. A fast-track guide to conflict and how to handle it
23
What conflict is 23
4. Dealing with bosses who drive you barmy
25
Mr angry 26; Never let them see you sweat 27
5. Colleagues to throttle
31
Competition crazy 33; Rivals, antagonists and getting
personal 34; It's always the quiet ones 35
6. Staff to strangle
37
Independent or stubborn? 41; When the big hand gets
to twelve 42; Good bosses don't pry ? but they should
try 44; Waving or drowning 44; finding out how good
a boss you've been 48; Seriously difficult members
of staff 48
iv Contents
7. Massaging the egoist
50
If the difficulty is an egomaniac boss 50; If the
difficulty is an egoist working for you 51; The
egomaniac colleague 52; Knocking the know-all 52
8. Handling aggressive people without getting thumped
on the nose
54
If an aggressive manager is trying to dump on your
ideas 55; If you're landed with a project that will never
fly 56; If you're being stabbed in the back 56
9. Putting a bomb under the lazy ones
58
Clock-watchers, rule-bookers and not invented here 59;
If you are held back by an idle colleague 60; A boss who
loiters 60; How you eat an elephant 61; The criminally
lazy 62
10. Beating the bullies at their own game
63
The decibel dictator 64; When you can't do anything right
64; When all else fails 65; The firework colleague 66
11. Moaners, groaners and critics
68
Cold water torture 69; Try building alliances, coalitions
and connections 70; Words you don't want to hear 70;
When critics turn the gun on themselves 71
12. Perfectionists can be a pain
72
What turns on a perfectionist 73; Rules are rules 74; the
perfectionist boss 75
13. Manipulating the manipulators
76
If you're being lined up to take the blame 77; Let's do a
deal 79; If you're easily flattered 80; If you're flattered
by your staff 81
14. Shifting the stubborn
82
When the customer knows best 83
15. Morale, attitude and how was it for you?
84
If you're sick of the sick 86; Everyone having a
sickie 87; Cliques, circles and witches' covens 88
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